On Fear and Blessings

4 Jun

If you are like me, you waiver between days of panic, and days of peacefulness sometimes without rhyme or reason. Some days are more difficult than others, and some weeks will challenge your positive outlook to the core. I had one of those weeks recently where it felt like nothing was going right, no progress was being made, and I had no idea what to do next. The fear and doubt was getting the best of me, and as another month passed by, the uncertainty felt overwhelming. It is no suprise that when you get stuck in these moments, not knowing what do do next, what will work, and what you are doing wrong, fear starts to rear its ugly head.

When the fear starts to creep in, we have to do everything that we can to challenge it. When fear takes hold, our thoughts become irrational and we may think we’ll never have a career position again, or worse yet we think we’ll be standing on a street corner with a cardboard sign. Fear holds us back from so many things. Fear of rejection. Fear of love. Fear of hate. Fear of gain or fear of loss. Fear of success. Fear of making the wrong decision.  Our fears are not grounded in reality and prevent us from becoming who we are meant to be.

Seth Godin, discussing fear in an interview, gave example of a class that he taught where he asked all of the students to make a sales phone call during the class in front of all of the other students. The students were going to be graded on the call, and something like 1/3 of the students refused to even make the call knowing that they would get an F for not making the call.  What were they afraid of? Rejection? Looking stupid in front of their peers? Not knowing what to say?

Fear can prevent us from going down the path that we are supposed to be on, and it can limit us in so many ways. When fear gets the best of you, really challenge your fears, and remember your blessings. Your fears may not be grounded in reality and your blessings may be greater than you know. Put on paper what you are greatful for, and the many people in your life who are there to love and support you, and although you might fall, they will make sure that you get up.

I continue to be thankful for the wonderful suppport of family and friends. Family who will always love and be there for me. Friends who I can “just be” with and enjoy their company. Old friends who love and support me no matter what the circumstances. New friends (blog friends) who have spent countless hours supporting me and giving me advice. Friends who have taken me out for dinner, bought me lunch, taken me to fundraisers, listened to my venting without judgement, practiced yoga with me, walked with me, and problem-solved over coffee. Far away friends who have spent hours on the phone with me, giving me ideas, support, and advice.  I am blessed to have so many people in my life who care about me.

When fear gets the best of you, challenge those thougths and remember your blessings. Take note of all of the people in your life who are there to love and support you.

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