Be Thankful, Minimize the “Pity-Party”

1 Apr

When I am in “pity-party” mode about the current state of my career, or other things in my life, I find that I am always looking at what is missing from my life, or what I am “supposed” to have in my life, instead of all of the blessings that I do have. When you are unemployed, it can start to feel like this is the permanent state of your life, rather than just some passing moment in your life. It is easier to see all of the wonderful things in your life when everything is humming along smoothly. But, although you may be experiencing a difficult time, all of the good things are still there, they just may be more difficult to recognize.

I have had moments where I have been able to see that this time of unemployment truly is a blessing, but I am also guilty of having the “pity-party” moments where it feels like nothing in your life will ever be as you would like it to be. The “pity-party” moments seem a bit ridiculous when you aren’t in that moment. On a good day it is easy to recognize that everything will work out on the end and you will be wiser, stronger, and better off for having gone through this time. On a good day it is easy to see that this time is just a small part of your life, and you will have easier times ahead. But on a bad day, a “pity-party” day, you may need a reminder.

In order to keep the “pity-party” days to a minimum, remind yourself of all the positive things that you do have in your life, and all of the wonderful experiences that you have had in the past. Be thankful. I am fortunate that I have a wonderful family, loving friends, and good health. I am thankful to be an auntie to some amazing kids, and I am thankful for the generosity of my friends and family. I am thankful that I live in a wonderful neighborhood, and a beautiful city.  These things are all certainly more important than whether or not I can afford buy a new pair of shoes.  I am also  fortunate and thankful that I have had some  amazing adventures in my life.

I’ve skied in Crested Butte, attended a bullfight in Spain, ran a marathon in Minneapolis, hiked in Moab, experienced Carnaval in Cadiz, sang karaoke (poorly) in Bogotá, explored the streets of  Tokyo, listened to jazz in New Orleans, snorkeled in Hawaii, cruised in Alaska, sunned on the beaches of St. Maarten, slept on the desert floor in Utah, rock-climbed in Colorado, kayaked in Washington, shopped the farmer’s market in Madison, enjoyed local beer in Portland, listened to the call to prayer in Istanbul, relaxed at a turkish bath, ate chicken rice in Singapore, cheered for the Packers at Lambeau, drank Pisco Sour in Peru, and  biked in Vancouver.

I write this not to brag about all the things that I have been able to do, but as a reminder to myself on the days when it feels like I may never use my passport again, that I am truly blessed. I have had many adventures in my life, and there will be more adventures in the future. When you spend so much time at home when you are unemployed, it is easy to lose sight of the bigger picture and all of the blessings in your life. What are you thankful for? What have you been blessed with in your life? Think about what you are thankful for, and put it in writing. When you are having a “pity-party” day, look at all of the things that you have been blessed with, and remember that this unemployment thing is just a brief moment in time.

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