The other day I was at the mall with a friend helping her shop, and it was a surreal experience. I just don’t know really how to describe it, but when you are unemployed, sometimes you feel like life is going on around you, but you aren’t really a part of it. It is like being on the outside of a bubble. That is sort of the way that it felt at the mall. You see all of these people shopping and spending money, a witness to a life that you are no longer leading.
It can be disheartening at times, but at the mall I actually had this strange moment of awakening. I had the sense that I am getting a front row seat to view the deeper meaning of life. I know it sounds odd, but I actually started to feel sorry for people at the mall. I wouldn’t wish this experience on anyone, but I am starting to see the bigger picture of how this experience is actually going to be quite good for me in my life. When you get away from the daily routines and luxuries that you were used to in life, you really start to see things from a different perspective. You start to more fully appreciate the little things in life, and you learn that all of the small, and big things that you used to worry about weren’t worth all of the worrying. You realize that you are stronger than you ever knew, and what you need to live, and be happy is a lot less than you had thought. And, you may even find that this experience is moving you closer to what you are supposed to be doing in life.
Sometimes I joke with my friends about how I feel like I have had enough “spiritual growth” and “life lessons” for the year. Is there an accelerated version of this class? I would like to take that one! But, what they say is true. You do really learn and grow from the most difficult times in your life. This experience may lead you to a job or business that you find more fulfilling and enriching. It may transform you in ways that you can’t see yet. If you don’t believe me, take a look at what others are saying also:
Elizabeth Lesser-Broken Open Elizabeth Lesser is the founder of the Omega institute, an institute for personal growth and wellness that is nationally recognized. In her book, ”Broken Open”, she tells the stories of people who have risen and been transformed from the most difficult of life circumstances whether it be divorce, lob loss, or the loss of a loved one. She writes about how you have a choice to make to either be “broken down, and defeated or broken open and transformed”.
I just stumbled upon this blog, and I love this post about Vishnu’s life lessons learned during unemployment. On top of just being unemployed, he got divorced, was couch-surfing, and dealing with an unsupportive family. Read about his six life lessons learned here.
The Monarch Company
I love reading stories about people who have been laid-off have found their true calling and passion if life. Whether it be baking cupcakes, writing a novel, teaching, or rehabbing homes, it is inspiring how some people transform themselves after a job loss. Katie Morgan writes about how she transformed here life after a devastating job loss, and found a new path in her life which resulted in the Monarch Company.
Escape from Cubicle Nation
Pam Slim is a coach and author of “Escape from Cubicle Nation”. She helps people break away from their day jobs to start their own business. On her blog, you can read many stories of how people have transformed their lives by starting their own businesses. One of her clients, Joshua Waldman, was laid off twice in six months and hit a low point after a traumatic job interview. After hitting the low point, he realized that he had skills that could help other people find work. The result is the book, “Job Searching with Social Media for dummies”. Read about his story and lessons learned here.
What will you learn from your experience? Will this experience break you down, or will you be broken open and transformed? Will you find your true calling in life? Will you start a business, or find a job that is more fufilling and enriching? You may not be able to see it yet, but this experience is changing you, and if you choose to be open to it, this may be the best thing that has happened to you in your life.